If you're facing an unplanned
pregnancy, it's important that you spend some time and give
a lot of thought to the options available to you. While we
advocate for, and believe in, adoption, you need to make the
best decision for both you and your baby. Some people place
their children for adoption while others decide to parent
or end their pregnancies. This is probably one of the most
difficult choices you'll have to make and that's a huge weight
to carry on anyone's shoulders.
At Adoptiveparents.ca, you
can learn about adoption, the process and issues involved
as well as your rights and the laws about adoption in your
province or territory. While we strive to provide our visitors
with the most accurate information as possible, it's important
that you speak with an adoption professional or social worker
if you have questions and concerns about adoption. There are
also organizations like "Planned Parenthood" that
can offer you support services.
A lot of people have pre-conceived
notions about adoption based on things they've heard in the
media or through other people's experiences. Adoption has
changed considerably over the last decade and birth parents
have more rights and are able to take an active role in the
If you decide to make an adoption
plan, you, as the birth parent, can:
- review profiles of prospective adoptive
- choose a family for your child;
- meet with the family before your child
- have the adoptive family attend appointments
and your labour/delivery;
- hold your baby after the birth and spend
time with him/her;
- take a few days following the birth to
think about and ensure adoption is the right choice;
- sign consent forms and have the right
to revoke your consent within a period of time;
- have contact with the adoptive family
and your birth child through photos, letters and visits
(this all depends on what type of open adoption everyone
has agreed to honour) You don't have to have an open adoption
if you're not comfortable with that type of arrangement;
- receive pre- and post- adoption counseling
services for free.
As a prospective birth parent, you can never
be forced, or pressured into, placing your child for adoption.
Social workers and adoption professionals can counsel you
about your options but no one can coerce you into signing
consent forms. As well, it is illegal for any professional
or potential adoptive families to offer you compensation or
gifts in any form for placing your child for adoption.
Legal Issues - Things You Should Know
- Adoption is forever.
Once the period to withdraw your consent expires, your parental
rights will be terminated and cannot be reinstated.
- Openness agreements made between birth
parents and adoptive parents are not legally enforceable
in Canada. These open adoption agreements may be in written
or verbal format and are based on trust and respect for
- More information about your legal rights
can be found in each province/territory's section on this
web site. Or, contact an adoption professional with any
questions or concerns.
If you're having any doubts about the adoption,
now is the time to address these with your adoption worker.
Most, if not all, adoption agencies offer free counseling
services to potential birth parents. Don't be afraid to take
advantage of these services and to address your uncertainties
now. Maybe something has changed in your life and you've decided
that you want to parent this child? Or, perhaps you're having
second thoughts about the family you've chosen to adopt your
child? Whatever the case, your worker will be able to help
you navigate through these difficult times so that you can
make the best decision possible.
The following are a few of the advantages
and disadvantages of adoption for potential birth parents
Advantages of Adoption
Disadvantages of Adoption
- You can review profiles of prospective adoptive
families and choose one for your child.
- Your parental rights are terminated once you sign
the consents and the period to withdraw your consent
- You can have an open adoption with the adoptive
family and your birth child through photos, letters
and visits. Many families become quite close and have
regular contact with each other.
- You will experience feelings of loss and sadness
even though you may still be involved in the child's
life through open adoption.
- You can continue your education or future career
plans while still being involved in your birth child's
life without having to deal with the daily parental
- You may experience judgement from others about placing
your child for adoption.
- You can still be involved with and enjoy your birth
child if you're not ready to become a parent.